My dad was a typical dad. He liked sports and cars and camping on the weekends at the lake with us. I felt like we were strangers at times as I was growing up. He didn't understand me because I was so different from him in so many ways, but he never made me feel bad about who I was.
We sang and performed together for a few years when I was in my teens and shared many wonderful moments on stage sometimes bringing each other to tears as we were caught up in the emotion of it all. I treasure these moments now in later life. I've reflected on them many times as well in the process of raising my kids.
Once he even pulled me aside and told me that I was a good father, and that he wished he had done more with us like I did my kids because he saw that even my smallest generosities with my children showed my love. You see it wasn't a lack of love from my father it was a lack of interaction between us that he had felt a loss for.
The last three years of his life we became very close. Sharing ideas. Sharing stories of our lives, and drinking coffee every morning. I learned to love him more and more.
He was taken from us suddenly when I was 22 years old and I still mourn the loss here 33 years later. I truly wish we had had more time, because I felt like we had only began to know each other.
My point this Father's Day Sunday is to all parents not just dads, and that in the process of living we often forget to connect with one another. We trade activities and hours at work in our busy worlds to the point that we fall short of the love our children need from us. It's great to be able to afford to take care of our families, but often the things we can offer them for free are the most generous gifts we can give them. So dads..... take a moment... find a kid who's already probably looking at you for guidance and give him or her that hug that means so much. Tell them that you "see" them, and that you love who they are, even if that's a hard thing to do. Our love, our guidance, our time, is all they really need from us. Be there!! Be present in their lives!! Everything else will work itself out.
If there's something standing in your way, then make today the day that you commit to doing something about it. Hypnosis is a wonderful tool to help us understand ourselves, and in the process have more understanding for those around us. There's nothing I like better than to help someone achieve their goals and live a better more fulfilling life. You are worth it! Your family is worth it! Is it time for you to take a step towards a healthier you and a healthier relationship with your family? Happy father's day!
with much love to all of you,